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If you've read much about polyamory you've definitely come across the term "compersion." The word was created in the early 90's to fill a gap in the english language and it means the feeling of joy and happiness you have at experiencing another person's joy and happiness. This is an important feeling to cultivate in open relationships because it will make you a better partner and will make you feel happier. But how do you actually do that? 

Lots of people talk about how great compersion is but few people really look at techniques and ways of thinking to help foster that feeling. In this episode, Emily and Jase discuss some things they've found from their own experiences.

We also discuss a listener e-mail about a tricky situation opening up a long-term marriage for the first time.

If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory In addition

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 72_-_Compersion_in_Open_Relationships.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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We've finally launched our Patreon page! To celebrate, the Multiamory crew is getting naked, figuratively and literally! This week, we bare all for our listeners, sharing our intimately personal stories of good times and bad, sexual exploration, gender identity, losing our virginities, and our favorite cusswords.

If you want to watch the video from this week's episode, head on over to our Patreon page: patreon.com/multiamory

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 71_-_The_Naked_Episode.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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No one likes to talk about break-ups. Unless they’ve just broken up with someone, then it’s all they can talk about. Break-ups challenge our beliefs about the enduring quality of true love, but they are an unfortunate reality when having multiple relationships. Unfortunately, having multiple partners does not make break-ups any less difficult. In this episode, we give you advice on how to determine it’s the right time to leave, including the one question to ask yourself if you’re questioning whether or not it’s time to end a relationship. We also how to consider if your relationship might be better served by transitioning or de-escalating rather than ending the relationship entirely.

 

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 70_-_Polyamorous_Breakups.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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The Multiamory crew have often discussed strategies for finding dating partners through online dating. But what about finding partners in real-life? Can you find poly-friendly partners out at a bar? How do you flirt while also conveying important information about your lifestyle?

We give you a collection of our favorite tips for flirting while out and about, including the best ways to make connections at poly meetups and making agreements for wingman/wingwoman-ing for your partner. And exclusive for our Multiamory podcast listeners, we explain our individually patented flirting techniques: Jase's Conversational Gambit, Emily's Direct Declaration, and Dedeker Throws the Book at You.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 69_-_How_to_Meet_Polyamorous_People.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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At Multiamory, we encourage people to avoid making strict rules when opening up their relationship. However, what about agreements? What about setting boundaries? Are those the same thing as rules? Rules, agreements, and boundaries are all frameworks that can be used to protect yourself within a relationship, but there are subtle differences. On this episode we walk you through these differences, and in particular we focus on setting up healthy and effective boundaries for yourself that do not impose rules on your partners or your partners' relationships.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 68_-_Rules_Agreements_and_Boundaries.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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This week, the Multiamory crew addresses question we get from our listeners all the time: how do I broach the subject of opening up my relationship? If you’re currently in a monogamous relationship, and you’re curious about opening it up, even the thought of suggesting it to your significant other may be unnerving.

In this episode, we give you specific strategies for bringing up the conversation and taking your first steps together toward opening your relationship. We’ll give you tactics to approach this talk in a way that’s unthreatening, collaborative, and will ideally be as comfortable as possible for both of you.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 67_-_Opening_Up.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:30pm PDT
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Are some people purely polyamorous and other people are completely monogamous? How can we reconcile these differences? What should I do about jealousy? What kind of polyamorous relationship is right for me?

In our interview with counselor, hypnotherapist, and author Kathy Labriola we get to hear her insights into all of this and more! Some of the topics we cover in this episode:

  • The poly to mono spectrum (like the Kinsey Scale)
  • The "bisexuals" of mono-poly
  • Breakdown of the 3 major polyamorous relationship styles
  • What to do when you and a partner are on different sides of the spectrum

We've also included a BONUS PDF of Kathy Labriola's Jealousy Workbook, available from Greenery Press and on her website KathyLabriola.com, which you can view here (Relationship Orientation Worksheet).

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 50% off just about any item in the store plus a free gift AND free shipping on the whole order.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 66_-_Polyamorous_and_Monogamous_Orientation.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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Our culture is steepedinnotions of traditional romance. In so many love songs wehear,"You're the only one for me." Our movies, TV shows, and dozensofother art forms idolize the couple, the soulmates, thestar-crossedlovers. Our notions of "romance" are still heavily tiedup tosexual exclusivity. If you have multiple partners, how do yougetall mushy and romantic when you can't fall back on theusualmonogamous phrases? In this episode, we examine the ways thatartand media shape our views of romance, as well as ways to makeyourpartners feel special and cared for outside of the languageofexclusivity.

Check outoursponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout toget10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was createdbyDedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms IKnow I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us yourfeedbackand questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebookpage, or visit our website multiamory.com We lovetohear from our listeners and we reply individually toeverymessage.

Direct download: 65_-_Romance.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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Coming out of the closet about your non-traditional relationships can be excited, nerve-wracking, or downright terrifying, especially when coming out to your parents. We share stories of our coming out conversations with our parents, and examine how coming out affected our relationships long-term. Whether you need to come out to your parents or someone else important in your life, we give you three important things to keep in mind when heading into this potentially daunting conversation.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 63_-_Parent_Trap.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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This week, we field an intriguing question from one of our listeners. She lives n a small, conservative town without a poly community, and she is constantly ending up in relationships with men who think they can turn her into monogamous wife material. How to avoid this from happening?

This is known as "cowboy-ing" or "cowgirl-ing," and the good news is that it is largely preventable with the right precautions. We take you through the most important things to do before getting into a relationship with someone to ensure that they won't try to change your preferences for non-monogamy later on. We also cover Dedeker's beloved coined word: poly-prenticing! This refers to when you are bringing someone brand new to polyamory into the inner circle, as it were. We give you our best tips for guiding a romantic partner through the transition to non-monogamy.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 62_-_Cowboys_and_Poly-Prenticing.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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