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This week, we field an intriguing question from one of our listeners. She lives n a small, conservative town without a poly community, and she is constantly ending up in relationships with men who think they can turn her into monogamous wife material. How to avoid this from happening?

This is known as "cowboy-ing" or "cowgirl-ing," and the good news is that it is largely preventable with the right precautions. We take you through the most important things to do before getting into a relationship with someone to ensure that they won't try to change your preferences for non-monogamy later on. We also cover Dedeker's beloved coined word: poly-prenticing! This refers to when you are bringing someone brand new to polyamory into the inner circle, as it were. We give you our best tips for guiding a romantic partner through the transition to non-monogamy.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 62_-_Cowboys_and_Poly-Prenticing.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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Non-traditional relationships draw many different kinds of people from all walks of life and for all different reasons. But why would you choose a lifestyle that is undeniably complicated, full of potential heartbreak, frustration, and vulnerability, and is generally considered to be pretty wacko by most of the population? In this episode we divulge our own reasons for living and loving the way we do, as well as examine many of the most common reasons. Whether you want more sex, less sex, a healthier relationship, or more overall happiness, there are good and bad reasons to try out polyamory.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 61_-_Why_poly.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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When confronted with the concept of polyamory, many people say that they are just too jealous of a person to try it. But we've recently encountered a number of people who have said, "I just don't have the self-esteem and self-confidence for that!" The irony is that we have all felt a huge increase in self-esteem, self-confidence, and all-around self-empowerment since making the decision to become non-monogamous. This week, we give you our best advice for having relationships that empower you instead of drain you, supporting you instead of undermining your happiness.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 60_-_self-empowerment.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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This week we hit a huge array of topics, including couple privilege, hierarchy, solo polyamory, and relationship anarchy. We highlight the numerous ways in which couple privilege is inherently built in and supported by our culture, and how to prevent that thinking from interfering with creating healthy, happy, polyamorous relationships. You'll also find an awesome exercise to help you apply relationship anarchy principles to add value to both your romantic relationships and your friendships.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 59_-_Fromanships.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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There are a lot of unspoken rules for who you can or cannot date. Traditionally, your friends, your friend's exes, your ex's friends, roommates, etc etc are off the table. But with it so hard to find polyamorous or non-monogamous dating partners, sometimes your options are limited. Is it okay to date within your poly community? What about dating your partner's friends, exes, or even current partners?

The Multiamory crew has extensive experience with dating within our community of poly friends. Believe it or not, it is possible to do without causing major drama or stepping on toes. In this episode, we go over the main things that you need to know in order to navigate overlapping relationships with grace and ease.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 58_-_Cross_Poly-nation.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 10:00am PDT
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This week, the Erotic Awakening Podcast Network is getting all shaken up! Dan and Dawn of the Erotic Awakening podcast are guest hosting this week's episode, while your beloved Multiamory crew guest hosts an episode of The Pageist podcast!

Dan and Dawn have been polyamorous for over 15 years -- through raising children, the ups and downs of life, and the early days of struggling to find a poly community. Dan and Dawn weigh in on their long-term polyamory experience, illuminating the ways in which their marriage, jealousies, and community have evolved over the past 15 years.

If you want to hear more of Dan and Dawn, check out http://www.eroticawakening.com/

If you want to know more about The Pageist podcast, and listen to the episode that we guest hosted, check out http://thepageist.com/podcast/episodes/

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 57_-_Dan_and_Dawn.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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This week on the multiamory podcast, Jase and Emily discuss something that has probably plagued us all at one time or another: Polyamory Haters.  We give you personal stories about the friends and family who have hated on us during our time being non-monogamous, as well as five ways to proactively deal with those who can make your polyamorous life a little more challenging.  

Some of those tips include: 

Be educated on your facts about polyamory 

Have conviction in your lifestyle

How to not serve hate right back to those who are hating on you  

 

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 56_-_Haters_Gonna_Hate.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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Culturally, we aren't presented with a lot of advice for getting long with your metamours -- your partner's partners. After all, they're your competition, right? Not necessarily. Many poly resources and educators give tips on how to get along with your metamours, but there's not much advice out there on what to do if you're in the middle!

If you're the hinge in a V-shaped relationship, there is so much you can do to help foster an environment that enables peaceful, non-competitive relationships between your partners. In this episode, we explain 5 different things that are absolutely necessary in order to make sure that all of your partners feel like they are on the same team.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 55_-_Metamours_2.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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So if you're looking for a non-traditional relationship, how do you find partners? Most people turn to the world of online dating, which can be intimidating and frustrating. This week, we bring you advice on the best way to set up your profile to find other like-minded partners, how to communicate your desires for non-monogamy without turning off the person you're interested in, and how to send messages that are both honest and respectful.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 54_-_Online_Dating.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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The Multiamory crew just read Cooper S. Beckett's new work: A Life Less Monogamous. The book tells the story of a young married couple, on their way to a dead bedroom, who discover the joys and pitfalls of swinging. We share our thoughts on the book, as well as explore some topics that came up in the reading: swinging, group sex, establishing rules, and old relationship energy.

In the poly community, many people talk about NRE (new relationship energy) -- all those great feelings you get when you're falling in love with someone new. But very few people acknowledge old relationship energy -- the bond and established intimacy that is present in a long-lasting relationship. In this episode you'll learn about the joys and potential problems that come with O.R.E.

You can read more of Cooper S. Beckett's work and purchase his book on his website: LifeOnTheSwingset.com.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 53_-_ORE.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:00am PDT
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