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Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes! Change is an unavoidable part of life but that doesn't keep it from being scary sometimes. We have a lot of personal experience with big life changes like moving to new states or countries, deaths of family or friends, transitioning from monogamy to polyamory, and much more. In this episode we discuss some the things we've learned about dealing with change and how to make it as painless as possible.

Often one of the most helpful things is knowing that you're not alone in struggling with change. Hopefully our stories and advice about finding community at the times when you need it most will help you with your current changes and also in preparation for the changes that will happen in the future. As the saying goes, "The only constant in life is change," so it's something that all of us can benefit from learning about.

If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get extra rewards and exclusive content and discussions.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 77_-_Changes.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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It isn't easy or fun to talk about abuse. Abusive relationships come in many different iterations, and non-monogamous relationships are not exempt from these kinds of unhealthy dynamics. It's difficult for poly folk to speak publicly about abuse, as social stigma discourages many people from sharing any negative or darker aspects of poly relationships. In this episode, we explore how poly relationships in particular can fall victim to emotionally abusive behaviors, as well as how to recognize abusive patterns early on.  

If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get extra rewards and exclusive content and discussions.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 76_-_Emotional_Abuse.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:00am PDT
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Whew, that's a lotta P's! After many discussions inspired by our solo polyamory episode a few weeks ago, we decided to revisit the topics of hierarchy and priority. Some people insist that a primary/secondary hierarchy is the only that works for long-term polyamory. After all, if you want a house, kids, and any other number of long-term relationship milestones, most people choose to do that with a single, primary partner. However, we argue that it is possible to enjoy these things either with one partner or multiple partners, but without resorting to establishing a rigid hierarchy. We explore the idea of organic priority within your relationships, rather than prescribing hierarchal roles.

If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons atwww.patreon.com/multiamoryIn addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get extra rewards and exclusive content and discussions.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions toinfo@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 75_-_Primary_Partners_and_Priority_in.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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This week we are trying to pin down the slippery notion of sex positivity. Does it just mean the absence of sex negativity? Does it mean you have to be enthusiastic about all kinds of sex? What if you don't even have sex? We bandy about what "sex neutrality" might mean, as well as illuminate the ways that sex positive communities actually leverage sex negativity in order to escape stigma and seek more acceptance.

If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get extra rewards and exclusive content and discussions.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 74_-_Sex_Positivity.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 5:10am PDT
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What is solo polyamory? Ask anyone in the poly community, and you're bound to get a wide range of answers. Some people see solo polyamorists as "free agents" who keep all relationships at arm's length. Others identify as solo polyamorists because they don't want to be considered part of a couple, or because they don't want to subscribe to relationship hierarchy. In this episode, we puzzle over the myriad forms of solo polyamory, and how the solo polyamorist can avoid others trivializing their relationships. We also address a listener email and explore how solo polyamory can work with child-rearing.

If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get extra rewards and exclusive content and discussions.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 73_-_Soly_Polyamory.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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If you've read much about polyamory you've definitely come across the term "compersion." The word was created in the early 90's to fill a gap in the english language and it means the feeling of joy and happiness you have at experiencing another person's joy and happiness. This is an important feeling to cultivate in open relationships because it will make you a better partner and will make you feel happier. But how do you actually do that? 

Lots of people talk about how great compersion is but few people really look at techniques and ways of thinking to help foster that feeling. In this episode, Emily and Jase discuss some things they've found from their own experiences.

We also discuss a listener e-mail about a tricky situation opening up a long-term marriage for the first time.

If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory In addition

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 72_-_Compersion_in_Open_Relationships.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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We've finally launched our Patreon page! To celebrate, the Multiamory crew is getting naked, figuratively and literally! This week, we bare all for our listeners, sharing our intimately personal stories of good times and bad, sexual exploration, gender identity, losing our virginities, and our favorite cusswords.

If you want to watch the video from this week's episode, head on over to our Patreon page: patreon.com/multiamory

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 71_-_The_Naked_Episode.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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No one likes to talk about break-ups. Unless they’ve just broken up with someone, then it’s all they can talk about. Break-ups challenge our beliefs about the enduring quality of true love, but they are an unfortunate reality when having multiple relationships. Unfortunately, having multiple partners does not make break-ups any less difficult. In this episode, we give you advice on how to determine it’s the right time to leave, including the one question to ask yourself if you’re questioning whether or not it’s time to end a relationship. We also how to consider if your relationship might be better served by transitioning or de-escalating rather than ending the relationship entirely.

 

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 70_-_Polyamorous_Breakups.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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The Multiamory crew have often discussed strategies for finding dating partners through online dating. But what about finding partners in real-life? Can you find poly-friendly partners out at a bar? How do you flirt while also conveying important information about your lifestyle?

We give you a collection of our favorite tips for flirting while out and about, including the best ways to make connections at poly meetups and making agreements for wingman/wingwoman-ing for your partner. And exclusive for our Multiamory podcast listeners, we explain our individually patented flirting techniques: Jase's Conversational Gambit, Emily's Direct Declaration, and Dedeker Throws the Book at You.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Go to audibletrial.com/multiamory to try Audible.com free for 30 days, plus credit for a free audiobook download!

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 69_-_How_to_Meet_Polyamorous_People.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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At Multiamory, we encourage people to avoid making strict rules when opening up their relationship. However, what about agreements? What about setting boundaries? Are those the same thing as rules? Rules, agreements, and boundaries are all frameworks that can be used to protect yourself within a relationship, but there are subtle differences. On this episode we walk you through these differences, and in particular we focus on setting up healthy and effective boundaries for yourself that do not impose rules on your partners or your partners' relationships.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get free shipping, free gifts, and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 68_-_Rules_Agreements_and_Boundaries.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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