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At Multiamory, we encourage people to avoid making strict rules when opening up their relationship. However, what about agreements? What about setting boundaries? Are those the same thing as rules? Rules, agreements, and boundaries are all frameworks that can be used to protect yourself within a relationship, but there are subtle differences. On this episode we walk you through these differences, and in particular we focus on setting up healthy and effective boundaries for yourself that do not impose rules on your partners or your partners' relationships.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 68_-_Rules_Agreements_and_Boundaries.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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This week, the Multiamory crew addresses question we get from our listeners all the time: how do I broach the subject of opening up my relationship? If you’re currently in a monogamous relationship, and you’re curious about opening it up, even the thought of suggesting it to your significant other may be unnerving.

In this episode, we give you specific strategies for bringing up the conversation and taking your first steps together toward opening your relationship. We’ll give you tactics to approach this talk in a way that’s unthreatening, collaborative, and will ideally be as comfortable as possible for both of you.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 67_-_Opening_Up.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 7:30pm PDT
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Are some people purely polyamorous and other people are completely monogamous? How can we reconcile these differences? What should I do about jealousy? What kind of polyamorous relationship is right for me?

In our interview with counselor, hypnotherapist, and author Kathy Labriola we get to hear her insights into all of this and more! Some of the topics we cover in this episode:

  • The poly to mono spectrum (like the Kinsey Scale)
  • The "bisexuals" of mono-poly
  • Breakdown of the 3 major polyamorous relationship styles
  • What to do when you and a partner are on different sides of the spectrum

We've also included a BONUS PDF of Kathy Labriola's Jealousy Workbook, available from Greenery Press and on her website KathyLabriola.com, which you can view here (Relationship Orientation Worksheet).

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 50% off just about any item in the store plus a free gift AND free shipping on the whole order.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 66_-_Polyamorous_and_Monogamous_Orientation.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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Our culture is steepedinnotions of traditional romance. In so many love songs wehear,"You're the only one for me." Our movies, TV shows, and dozensofother art forms idolize the couple, the soulmates, thestar-crossedlovers. Our notions of "romance" are still heavily tiedup tosexual exclusivity. If you have multiple partners, how do yougetall mushy and romantic when you can't fall back on theusualmonogamous phrases? In this episode, we examine the ways thatartand media shape our views of romance, as well as ways to makeyourpartners feel special and cared for outside of the languageofexclusivity.

Check outoursponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout toget10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was createdbyDedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms IKnow I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us yourfeedbackand questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebookpage, or visit our website multiamory.com We lovetohear from our listeners and we reply individually toeverymessage.

Direct download: 65_-_Romance.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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Everyone worries about the potential of jealousy in non-monogamous relationships. We at Multiamory spend a lot of our time dissecting jealousy and strategizing how to manage and transform it. But we have yet to ask the question: are there ever times when jealousy is a good thing?

We examine some of the most common ways that we justify our jealous feelings, playing them off as protectiveness, discernment, or even as a sign of the depth of our love for someone else. In this episode, we dig in to what the true positive sides of jealousy may be, and how to harness them for your own personal growth.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 64_-_is_jealousy_good.mp3
Category:Relationships -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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Coming out of the closet about your non-traditional relationships can be excited, nerve-wracking, or downright terrifying, especially when coming out to your parents. We share stories of our coming out conversations with our parents, and examine how coming out affected our relationships long-term. Whether you need to come out to your parents or someone else important in your life, we give you three important things to keep in mind when heading into this potentially daunting conversation.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 63_-_Parent_Trap.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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This week, we field an intriguing question from one of our listeners. She lives n a small, conservative town without a poly community, and she is constantly ending up in relationships with men who think they can turn her into monogamous wife material. How to avoid this from happening?

This is known as "cowboy-ing" or "cowgirl-ing," and the good news is that it is largely preventable with the right precautions. We take you through the most important things to do before getting into a relationship with someone to ensure that they won't try to change your preferences for non-monogamy later on. We also cover Dedeker's beloved coined word: poly-prenticing! This refers to when you are bringing someone brand new to polyamory into the inner circle, as it were. We give you our best tips for guiding a romantic partner through the transition to non-monogamy.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 62_-_Cowboys_and_Poly-Prenticing.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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Non-traditional relationships draw many different kinds of people from all walks of life and for all different reasons. But why would you choose a lifestyle that is undeniably complicated, full of potential heartbreak, frustration, and vulnerability, and is generally considered to be pretty wacko by most of the population? In this episode we divulge our own reasons for living and loving the way we do, as well as examine many of the most common reasons. Whether you want more sex, less sex, a healthier relationship, or more overall happiness, there are good and bad reasons to try out polyamory.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 61_-_Why_poly.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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When confronted with the concept of polyamory, many people say that they are just too jealous of a person to try it. But we've recently encountered a number of people who have said, "I just don't have the self-esteem and self-confidence for that!" The irony is that we have all felt a huge increase in self-esteem, self-confidence, and all-around self-empowerment since making the decision to become non-monogamous. This week, we give you our best advice for having relationships that empower you instead of drain you, supporting you instead of undermining your happiness.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 60_-_self-empowerment.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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This week we hit a huge array of topics, including couple privilege, hierarchy, solo polyamory, and relationship anarchy. We highlight the numerous ways in which couple privilege is inherently built in and supported by our culture, and how to prevent that thinking from interfering with creating healthy, happy, polyamorous relationships. You'll also find an awesome exercise to help you apply relationship anarchy principles to add value to both your romantic relationships and your friendships.

Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show.

Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.

Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

Direct download: 59_-_Fromanships.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 9:30am PDT
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